This took me longer to find that it did to fill out and send.
what the fuck just happened.
so we passed a healthcare bill. which is great. i still dont understand WHY this has been such a struggle, but that is neither here nor there.
the fact is that the bill passed with the stupak amendment which i believe NARAL can explain better than i (although i have emphasized the crucial element):
“The Stupak-Pitts amendment makes it virtually impossible for private insurance companies that participate in the new system to offer abortion coverage to women. This would have the effect of denying women the right to use their own personal private funds to purchase an insurance plan with abortion coverage in the new health system — a radical departure from the status quo. Presently, more than 85 percent of private-insurance plans cover abortion services.”
so now its up to you as voters to contact your representatives about this and insure that our right to STAYING ALIVE and STAYING HEALTHY and thus CONTRIBUTING to motherfucking society isn’t given to us with caviats like those stated above.
The NYT article I read last night said they’re not finished sussing out the details so HOPEFULLY the fucking Stupak-Pitts amendment will get reversed or finessed or whatever.
At least, that’s what I told myself to get calm enough to go to sleep.
We still need to get in touch with our representatives to tell them they need to fix this part.
I’m sure these sites will have info on what to do:
You are an adult. Along with that title comes accountability. You alone are in control of your actions, your attitude, your decisions and ultimately, your happiness or your misery.
(via liezlwashere)
Say Yes To The Dress.
a.k.a. wherein I rant about Certain Brides Today.
Last night’s ep of SYTTD (a show that I really love) made me mad. Usually, I feel pretty good afterwards — either genuinely happy for the couple or I get a smug sense of satisfaction that I am blessed with a mother who doesn’t control me, friends who like me and want me to be happy, and will most likely end up marrying a man who thinks that even if I wore a Hefty bag on our wedding day, he’s still going to think I’m the most beautiful woman in the room world. Why? Because finally, after almost-32-years of torment, I finally love myself enough to not put up with any bullshit.
But last night’s episode made me sad. And that made me mad. Because that dumb show about fucking wedding dresses isn’t allowed to make me sad.
In last night’s episode, one woman came in with her mother. Apparently her fiancee “had a meeting” but would try to make it to the appointment. Why? Because, according to the woman, she “can’t make a decision without him.” Especially about clothes. Because, as Randy (the store’s only male, gay consultant) so delicately put it, this guy was “fashion forward.”
This lady’s fiancee was CLEARLY gay.
Twee voiced, waxed eyebrowed, deep-v-neck-tee-wearing homosexual man.
And he’s obviously closeted, which makes me sad for both him and his co-dependant fiancee because… well, DUH. DUH!
She tries on three dresses without him (waiting for him), all of which are very lovely on her. She LOVES one of them. Her mom cries when she sees her daughter in it.
Gay Fiancee calls; he’s on his way. Woman is so excited to get his opinion, she’s nervous.
GF enters and swiftly, coolly shoots down each dress, including the one that the woman loved so much. “It looks like a tounequette,” he snits about the ruching on the bodice. “Oh,” the woman says, visibly deflated. They leave without buying anything.
The woman is MARRYING this guy. This woman is utterly dependant on him for seemingly everything. Forget the fact that he’s most likely gay and closeted — the bottom line was, he wasn’t very nice to her.
And more and more, when they show a woman who brings her fiancee, he’s either a pushy asshole with too many opinions about the dress (which strikes me as being incredibly controlling)… or he doesn’t really care, but he’s doing it because he knows how much it means to her and he wants to make her happy. Which is nice, but speaks to a larger problem — she’s determined to pick the dress based solely on what HE thinks.
What about what SHE thinks?
After all, SHE’S THE ONE WHO WILL BE WEARING THE FUCKING THING.
In the same episode as Gay Fiancee was a couple where the woman was so high maintenance, I give their marriage 2 years, tops. She got pressered into buying a dress she didn’t like by her mom and her future mother-in-law, so they were back to get a new dress. She tries on a few dresses. The guy sort of shrugs and mumbles; passively points out something wrong with each one. So, because of this, she doens’t like them either. Finally, they pull a dress for her (one of those hidious Pnina Torne 80’s video vixen dresses with the nearly see-through bodices), she doesn’t really like it, but he LOVES it. She beams. “Okay! This is the dress!”
What. The. Fuck.
SYTTD is a sneak peek into why the divorce rate is so fucking high. So many passive women, so desperate to get married they’re settling on men who are not right for them (either too controlling, or so passive that they feel like they must force an opinion/emotion out of them) because we live in a society that openly pities single woman. Because people get into unhappy relationships they stupidly spend years in, but ignore the signs they should break up because they’ve “invested too much time into it” and feel pressured to just go ahead and get married.
…
Yeah, I don’t know why I enjoy watching SYTTD as much as I do.
But I do.
I guess I get off on feeling smug. I’ll admit it.
Plus Randy makes me laugh.
That sounds about right. I’m SO tired of certain Christians pushing their agenda on everyone. WTF is wrong with people?At some point we should just declare all-out war on these people.icanseenewyorkcityfrommyhouse:
“If this amendment passes, it will mean that virtually all women with insurance through the exchange who find themselves in the unwanted and unexpected position of needing to terminate a pregnancy will not have coverage for the procedure. Abortion coverage will not be outlawed in this country. It will simply be tiered, reserved for those rich enough to afford insurance themselves or lucky enough to receive from their employers.”—
Call your Representative NOW
Sigh. I thought neo-conservatism had been chased out of town. Guessed wrong.
“Opposition from anti-abortion Democrats, driven in large part by aggressive activism from the Catholic Church, forced Democratic leadership to allow a vote on Bart Stupak’s amendment limiting elective abortion coverage from both private and public insurers on the exchange.” -Ezra Klein
They want to make all these people HAVE these babies, but they don’t want to educate them or give them healthcare once they’re born. Really, what’s the purpose of this “Human Farm” they want to create? More soldiers to defend the country? Curious.
Dear pot smoking neighbor,
If you’re gonna get baked at a quarter to five on a weekday, at least have the decency to invite me over to share.
Love, Sara
They do it at around 9-10 every day too. Sheesh. I don’t want any, but wow, that’s a lot of money going into the air.
Oh, then they follow it by lots of cigarette smoking.
Our neighbors are dumb.
Dear pot smoking neighbor,
If you’re gonna get baked at a quarter to five on a weekday, at least have the decency to invite me over to share.
Love, Sara
I’m starting to think my hair troubles are due to how much water I drink.
We have a Pur filter, but I drink a LOT of water out of it and I wonder how many toxins it’s able to actually take out.
I know washing my hair with tap water isn’t doing it any favors, but now I’m worried that I’m slowly poisoning myself with the Pur pitcher water.
Perhaps I’ll buy some gallons of distilled water or purified drinking water and see if that starts to make a difference.
Blugh.
Office Depot has a deal on 4 packs of 250 Full-Color Raised Print business bards. To take advantage of the deal, apply this code: 71968582 then this code: 16400993. The whole thing should come out to $3, shipped.
I believe these codes are only good today, but I could be wrong.
If you make a thousand cards that just say “You’re awesome.” and randomly hand them all out to people on the street, I will send you a signed original polaroid.
Not kidding. You’ll need to figure out some sort of way of providing me with proof…but I’m totally serious.
Finally, someone has come up with a way to synergize Shakespeare and the business world…
UPDATE: I went through and it comes to ($29.99 - $10.00) - 15% = $16.99. Not a bad price, but not $3.
You have to get four packs. Worked for me.
Holy shit, I just paid $3.67 for a thousand business cards. I really hope I don’t come to regret the cocky job title I gave myself.
DUDE. This is BADASS.
I needed new Just For Fun business cards anyway! $4 for 1000!
